daily 4cast: 3/2/2015 [#StarsAndSymbols]

Sun [in Pisces] inconjunct Moon [in Leo]
Moon [in Leo] conjunct Jupiter/Juno [in Leo]
Moon [in Leo] trine Venus/Mars/Uranus [in Aries], Saturn [in Sagittarius]
Moon [in Leo] inconjunct Neptune [in Pisces]
Moon [in Leo] sextile North Node [in Libra]


Ever heard of Captain Save A Hoe? Yeah… Nobody wants to be that guy. Trying to rescue everyone who crosses your path isn’t possible, and if it were, it still wouldn’t be practical. Everyone has their own lives to live and their own choices to make.

So, what if the one who needs assistance is a close family, a lover, or a friend? So what! Sometimes you have to draw the line between what you can and can’t do for other people. The Ones closest to you have a way of wielding guilt when your actions defy their expectations, which are based on the role they have created for you to play in their soap opera, but that is not your burden to carry. You have the right to deny anyone who attempts to modify or manipulate your behavior for their own emotional amelioration and psychological security. Rip the script or at least rewrite it in your own words.

boundary_fullEstablishing clearly defined boundaries doesn’t make you any less of a perfect partner [as if that were even a thing]. Contrary to what you may believe, adopting interpersonal discrimination serves to empower both parties. As compassionate as you may be, you sabotage your own wellbeing when your livelihood is dependent upon other people’s peace of mind. By playing hero, you enable the destructive habits of The Ones who are in need of the toughest love. You might feel bad, yes, but you must exercise a bit of discernment before you can be truly lend a helping hand. For all you know, The Ones for whom you are bending over backwards may not need/want your assistance. Regardless, even if you give someone everything you have, you still can’t make them like or love you. The sooner you realize this, the better off everyone will be, and you can all get back to enjoying each other’s company. Or not.

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Throughout your day, try to recognize exactly when you are projecting the power of your will onto someone else, especially in the name of “charity”. It’s all too easy to pass the buck of accountability by feigning moral obligation, [aka allowing other people’s problems to dictate your every move so that you’re the savior when everything is all right and the victim if anything goes wrong…]. Admirable or not, assuming the position of “the social worker” isn’t justification enough to avoid taking responsibility for the state of your life, especially if you’re more of a volunteer than a paid agent. Acts of selflessness are fine, but be balanced, lest you suffer as a casualty of your own ulterior motives.

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